Modelling Trees

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I like trees. Actually, I love them. I have always loved trees. I remember as a child having a secret love affair with an almond tree and with a fig tree that grew near the little house my parents used to rent for the summer holidays. In fact, a tree earned me the only smack my mother ever gave me. She had just hand-made me a lovely pair of shorts and, the very first time I wore them, I slid down one of the almond tree branches and tore the backside right out of her beautiful stitching work. She was NOT impressed!

It would be easy to say that I loved trees from a very young age because I grew up in suburban land where trees were relatively rare but it would not be accurate. There was always much more to it than that: trees 'represented' something for me. Even if I didn't know what it was, I could feel it somehow.

Before you dismiss me as a compulsive tree hugger, I'll add that I have never hugged a tree in my life. Perhaps I should! Somehow though, I don't need to. Trees continue to represent a lot for me - they are mute Reminders of the most powerful way to Be on this earth.  They 'speak' to me silently.

Let's take a fun coaching look at The Tree Model of Being:

  • Know that you grow from a small acorn and that growth isn't complete when you reach the legal adult age. Growth has two dimensions: external/visible & internal/hidden.  Internal growth inevitably manifests as external growth. Sadly, the reverse isn't always true. Tree Lesson No 1: don't just rely on the information your five senses give you or else you'll only see the obvious - not the important.
  • Grow roots that match in hidden reach your branches' visible spread. That's the only way to sustain yourself in all weather conditions. All trees do that, whatever their specie or their environment. Tree Lesson No 2: pay great attention to what keeps you truly rooted in this world and not just to what keeps you noticed.
  • Embrace the seasons. Trees are magnificent all year round. They are the only 'creatures' I know that are as beautiful in skeletal form (bare-branched in winter) as they are fully clothed in summer, that are as magnificent in dying (losing their leaves in the autumn) as they are in birthing (blooming in spring). Trees have mastered life's cycles. Tree Lesson No 3: welcome endings with the same open heart as you appreciate beginnings.
  • Use both flexibility and strength. Some trees bend in the wind, others stand tall and stiff. Both capabilities serve trees well. Tree Lesson No 4: avoid valuing flexibility over strength or strength over flexibility - both are powerful. Concentrate on learning when to use which.
  • Be humble and dignified. Trees are not noisy show-offs and they do not lower themselves to catch our attention. They stand quietly in our streets, in front of our windows, expecting us to see them and appreciate them. Tree Lesson No 5: although nobody will know you can play music if you do not occasionally blow your own trumpet, blow in the knowledge that you are nothing 'special', even you are unique and precious. Everybody else is unique and precious too.
  • Give as part of who you are - not just of what you do. Trees take choking carbon dioxide and give us life-giving oxygen in return. Their function is embedded in their very nature. Tree Lesson No 6: fill yourself by being a giver in this life. Takers always end up empty.

I don't know about you but I think that The Tree Model of Being kicks the butt of many consulting/coaching models I see touted about the place...... :0)

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